fearing your future

fearing your future

For a long time, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. Thinking about the future scared the hell out of me. Thinking about college? Forget it. I would almost rather work hard getting ready for college than actually thinking about applying. Getting a job? How would I ever find one that fulfilled me enough to stay interested in? These worries and more used to weigh me down every day. It’s like I was carrying a huge weight over my shoulders, and each anxious thought bowed my head even more until I couldn’t even be confident in me anymore.

The best way to eradicate fear of the future is to be present. You have to trust that your future won’t be perfect. It will have thorns and bumps in the road, and along your path you will find unexpected happiness and bliss as well as sorrow and despair. All of those worries about the future won’t stop bumps along the road from happening. My point is, see how you are now. If you’re scared that you won’t find your passion, try new things

I have always known that I wanted to help others when I grew up, but didn’t know how. I was absolutely sure that I wouldn’t have the stomach to be inside a hospital. Blood? No thanks, I thought. However, I have ended up working at an animal hospital, and have absolutely loved being there. Each day, I keep coming back.

I may still be unsure if my passion is fit for a specific job in my future, but at least I’ve gotten out there. I’ve tried. I’ve done something out of my comfort zone, and it’s opened me up to a new path of possibilities.

appreciate the unconditional love

appreciate the unconditional love

It’s easy to forget that there’s people who love you when you’re stuck inside a pit of despair, scratching the walls, desperate for a way out. It’s easy to only look up at the rest of the world and forget that you have people that have climbed down into that hole to be beside you.

The other day, it began to dawn on me that the people who love you don’t always blatantly say it. It’s not always said out loud. People can be just like animals in that way. My canine companion, Cooper, has never told me that he loves me and yet I know with every cell in my body that he cares for me above anyone else. When I’m alone in my corner, he licks my tears, probably because he likes tasting salt but maybe because he knows I’m upset. When I come home after a full day of work, he’s waiting. He can’t tell me that he missed me, but his tail wagging so fast it’s a blur, his constant barking and whining until I take him up in my arms, all tell me that he was lonely without me. When I leave, his sad eyes follow me through the glass door, watching me driving away from him. The worst part is that he never knows if I’m coming back for him.

People leave. It’s the obvious truth. Hard times hit. Tragedies occur, but you have to remember who’s living them with you. Who isn’t afraid to bring you ice cream when you fail a test. The people that put you in their priorities, not the ones that don’t even consider you one. I might be rambling, but my point is that people love you. Always. And unconditionally. And that’s pretty great.

How to handle rejection

How to handle rejection

We’ve all experienced it, in small ways and overwhelmingly embarrassing ways. No matter what type it is, rejection makes routine hard to cope with. You start questioning old habits and the very values that make you… you. Here’s some tips for handling rejection, from someone else, a group you want to join, a school you want to attend, or even yourself.

1. Cry. Scream if you have to. It gets some pent-up energy out and maybe after it’s out, you’ll have more room for calmer thoughts. Don’t be afraid to show your emotions, even if you mess up your eyeliner and black runs down your cheeks.

2. Drink some water. It will clear your mind.

3. Asess: do you even have a shot at a second chance? If you do, use this fire to become an even better you so you can kick butt the next time you face your challenge. If it’s a person that has rejected you, honey, you’re better off without them.

4. Jot down your thoughts, if you’re still feeling some trapped emotions.

5. Call up a friend who understands your pain. They will be more likely to get where you’re coming from and share your pain.

6. Ask yourself: will this matter in 10 years? Will I remember this? I know I always want to answer yes just to prove a point, but remember that you have your whole life ahead of you, and rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough, it just means it’s not the right time, and the Universe has something else in store for you that will be even better.